Category Archives: Dating/Love

Let’s Talk About Sex

zTmSXmqc_400x400Sex educator, Kate McCombs and founder of Sex Geekdom, will share tips and techniques to develop your sexual communication abilities. Kate’s workshop will include an empathy-building activity drawing upon non-violent communication trainings, sex talk, and plenty of Q&A time (which is anonymous if you’re afraid to talk). This workshop will offer strategies to make the most of your sex life regardless of gender, relationship status, or sexual orientation. So come with your best questions and be prepared to learn a lot!

When: Thursday, November 13th 4:30-6:30 pm
Where: Hillcrest 103

New Online Project: Resilience

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There’s a new online project happening at Middlebury, and it’s not only incredibly inspiring, but much-needed. This fall, Emma Erwin ‘15.5 began “Resilience,” a website dedicated to exposing real accounts of students’ internal struggles – no matter what they may be – in an attempt to build solidarity and support. The website’s tagline is “What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done?”, a question encouraging tremendous introspection and honesty, which Emma answered beautifully in the site’s first published story, “Therapy.” Emma writes in to share the mission behind Resilience, and invite you all to participate:

So much goes on beneath the surface (especially at Middlebury) where the crazy tough times, traumatic events, and difficult experiences that people deal with often seem to be a taboo subject. Whether it involves mental health, mental or physical illness, family issues, the death of a loved one, relationship issues, sexuality, sexual assault, body image, or whatever else—there are so many tough things that almost everyone has had some serious struggles with at some point in time.

In the moment, it usually feels like you’re completely alone, like you’re in the worst place in the world and that no one understands. But that’s rarely the case: so many of our peers have experienced so much of life, and not all of it is rainbows and butterflies. In an effort to break this norm about hiding one’s struggles under he facade of having it all together, I thought it might be neat to shed some light into some of those darker moments, to share them. My hope is that by sharing our stories, we can both support each other in our struggles and celebrate our strength in the ways we manage to overcome them. 

The Resilience project has a few parts: Writing, Photography, and Story Telling. Basically, Emma encourages any and all students to “Think about your story, write it down or type it out. If you feel comfortable, submit it (either openly or anonymously), to be displayed on a blog site, and later in an open forum on campus,” (that’s the writing), “Select a picture, or volunteer to have your portrait taken. Take a sharpie, and answer the question: what’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done? Write the answer on your picture. If you feel comfortable, submit it to be displayed online and in a public space on campus,” (that’s the photography), and attend a J-term storytelling event where all the stories on the website will be told (if you wrote a story you are more than welcome to read your own, or have it read anonymously), and the photos submitted will be displayed.

Middbeat absolutely cannot wait to see the Resilience project develop, and strongly encourages all of you to consider writing a story, whether attached to your name or annonymously. Also, if you submitted a story to middbeat’s Body Image Event in the Gamut Room last spring, please consider re-submitting to Resilience!

And a sincere thank you to Emma, for being brave enough to speak up. The whole campus appreciates you.

Check out Emma’s story here, and go to go/resilient/ or go/light/ for more information on the project and to get involved. Keep spreadin the positivity, happiness, and courage, lovely humans.

TONIGHT: MCAB Spooky Social

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FYI it’s Halloween, so get ready to turn upppp! There will undoubtedly be a bunch of bashes tonight, so remember to stay safe. And, if you’re lookin for something more contained than the mess that will be Atwater, be sure to hit up MCAB’s Spooky Social in Crossroads Cafe! The social will have all the Halloween treats you’d wish for: DJ Yeager will be jammin it up from 9pm – 1am, there will be a Costume Competition (judging at 8:30pm) with BIG prizes (team of 4 or more with group costumes win $300 for first prize and $150 for second prize, top two individual costumes get $25 in Grille certificates), and there will be delicious Grille snacks. P.S. there will be a taco truck outside the Bunker tonight, too (throwback to 2012).

Win money, dance it up, and get free Grille food? Not gonna complain.

Date: Tonight, October 31
Time: 8:30 pm – late
Place: Crossroads Cafe
Cost: Just some solid Halloween spirit

MIDDBEAT RELEASE: MCAB Fall 2015 Comedians Will Be…

Middbeat’s breakin the news, the MCAB Fall 2015 Comedians have been released! MCAB Social Co-Chairs Claudia Esteva ’15 and Nitya Mankad ’16 write in to let us know the details:

Attention Middlebury Students! On Saturday, November 22, MCAB is delighted to present comedic duo Jake and Amir from College Humor. Jake Hurwitz and Amir Blumenfeld are the writers/actors/editors behind the Webby award winning Internet series “Jake and Amir.” The duo have released two videos a week for over four years, with each episode now averaging more than 500,000 views. As a series, “Jake and Amir” has won several awards including the Webby’s People Voice for Best Web Series in 2010 and has been named one of PCMag’s top 15 best web-only shows. Their series has also appeared on television on MTV’s “The CollegeHumor Show.” The two have recently released their first ever half hour special, “Fired” available for online streaming and in DVD form.

They will be joined by special guest Jon Rineman, who is currently the head monologue writer on The Tonight Show starring Jimmy Fallon. He has appeared as a stand-up and performer on Late Night with Jimmy Fallon and tours the country performing stand-up in comedy clubs and colleges.

Jake and Amir will be performing their podcast “If I Were You.” Join our hosts as they dispense wisdom on areas of life they are qualified to talk about. Also in areas they are not qualified to talk about.

Tickets go on sale at the Box Office this Monday, November 3rd, at 6 am. They will be $12 online, and $15 at the door.

Sounds awesome, thanks MCAB! We be thur. 

Date: Tickets: November 3, Performance: November 22
Time: Tickets: 6 am, Performance: Doors open 8:30 pm, show starts at 9
Place: McCullough Social Space

Ron’s Closet: Capturing the Spirit of Middlebury College Through Apparel and Design

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There’s a new Middlebury alumni-led fashion endeavor in the works, and if you haven’t heard about it, you definitely should. While recent regulations have spurred many of us to criticize Middlebury campus traditions (or lack thereof), Ryan Brewster ’14 is determined to do the opposite, reviving and celebrating what Midd traditions we do retain through creative design. Enter Ron’s Closet Apparel Company

The ethos is simple. As Ryan explains:

Ron’s Closet Apparel Company aims to capture the spirit of Middlebury through graphic and clothing design. Channeling the innocent desires of a “Proctor Crush” or the unabashed disrobing that is “Like a Prayer,” our products are informed by the timeless themes that define our wacky, yet endearing culture.

Community. Tradition. Self-Expression. These are the core principles of Ron’s Closet, and embody the ethos of a brand created by and for Middlebury students. Consistent with these values, everything we produce will be sold at the cost of printing (i.e. we don’t care about profit), and any money that is contributed on top will be set aside for local charities.

Sounds pretty cool, and the designs (some featured above) are pretty awesome. After freshman year it seems we all get a bit sick of sporting that classic Middlebury sweatshirt, the emblem of college acceptance purchased within minutes of receiving the big envelope in the mail. This being said, there’s undoubtedly value in identifying with the aspects of our institution we do like, and Ron’s Closet designs provide a platform to do so, it’s mission being “to create apparel that is inspired by the lifestyle and pulse of Middlebury College.”

Plus, because Ron’s Closet is not profit-driven, you can feel good about your investment, knowing any surplus money will be donated to local charities. The company will be using the crowd-funding site Tee Spring, where shirts can be ordered individually on the basis of separate campaigns. Products will be printed and shipped once the minimum threshold of buyers is reached. More information regarding Tee Spring policies can be found here.

Ryan writes in to reinforce that Ron’s Closet is currently recruiting graphic designers (or any creative minds) who are interested in contributing to our collection. An additional arm of Ron’s Closet is that of a pro bono design service for events/organizations/you name it seeking branding and marketing materials. Among recent collaborators have included the Student Government Association, the Middlebury College Emergency Medical Services and the Islamic Society of Middlebury College.

Sounds like this start-up could really take off, so it could be a smart move to get involved fast. Contact [email protected] for information! And, to learn more about the project, check out Ron’s Closet Facebook page here.

P.S.: Ryan, middbeat would certainly love our own design!

Social House Information Session

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Chromatic, one of many beautiful social homes

In light of recent events and policies, it’s clear there’s significant drama regarding social life at Middlebury. While we all (at least most of us) revel in our campus’ lack of Greek life, social outlets at Midd can feel limited, and, if you’re not in a cappella, sports, improv or the likes, it can be really difficult to meet students in other years. Thankfully, Midd does have some sweet Social Houses, which provide invaluable opportunities to branch out, meet students with similar interests, and feel part of a smaller community.

If you’re interested in joining a social house this year (everyone is welcome!) be sure to check out today’s social house information session/fair in Crossroads Cafe. Kelsey O’Day ’15 writes in to explain the event:

Come to Crossroads at any point from 7-9pm on Wednesday, October 8th and meet some of the Social House leadership! Representatives from each Social House (Tavern, The Mill, Chromatic, KDR, and Xenia) will be there. We’ll be available to answer any questions you may have about the social house system in general or about a specific social house. Also, this is a great opportunity to get on our email list sowe can invite you to our events throughout the year! This is a *~* non-binding*~* event! AKA you will not be required to sign up to be a member, and can just come hang. Not to mention there’s FREE GRILLE FOOD for attendees and fresh apple cider (yuuuum).

Date: Today, October 8
Time: 7-9pm
Place: Crossroads Cafe

Lunar Eclipse Wednesday Morning!!!

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Here at middbeat, we’ve always been big fans of the moon.  It brings the ebbs and flows of the tide, makes wolves howl, and makes for romantic walks home from the bar.  It therefore pains us immensely to announce the total eclipse of the moon around 7 AM tomorrow.  For those early risers and sky-watchers out there, this will be a real sight to behold that may not happen again for quite some time.  This could be a good morning for a sunrise hike up Mount Abe, getting on top of your dorm’s roof, sending it to the coast to see the sun rise over the sea, or joining the Aviation Club to get above tomorrow’s expected rain clouds.  As they say, celestial events like this only happen once in a blue moon.  Don’t miss out.

Thanks to Eyal Levy ‘14.5 for the tip.

When: 7 AM Wednesday
Where: the sky

52 Thoughts You’ve Had When Eating Proctor Dinner

We can all agree that Proctor dinner can be a stressful experience. Even if you can whip up a homemade salad dressing in seconds or assemble an award-winning panini in a flash, you’re likely victim to the occasional awkward moment or food fumble. We understand your troubles, hence our decision to articulate the thoughts plaguing our minds as we get our essential, albeit sometimes bland, nutrients. For solidarity, humor, or self-pity, here’s 52 thoughts we’ve all had when eating Proctor dinner:

1. Oh god why is the line so long… Go to Ross people!
2. But seriously, where the F are the proctor bowls
3. This is not okay. I need my split pea soup

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4. Mmmm is that chicken parm?
5. I worked out.. I definitely need two pieces…or three…
6. Do I look like a fatty with a plate full of chicken parm?
7. Ahh yes.. I’ll balance it out with a salad
8. I love salad!
9. NOT
10. Does anyone eat the weird dishes at the end of the salad bar?
11. Maybe I’ll try this raw fish rice… hmmmm
12. I’m SO glad we have a whole tub of ham. I’m hate when salad bars forget that essential ingredient.

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One Small Step… Party Assistants for Hire

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Social life surveillance has been a hot topic preoccupying many minds over the last couple weeks, middbeat’s included. The student body’s principle complaint has been the shady ways in which the administration goes about making these decisions, without any apparent student input.  Alas, there seems to be some progress on that front, heralded in by the recent announcement of a newParty Assistant position for students.

Anyone who has been to a party in Palmer or its ilk knows that Pub Safe usually rolls through halfway through the party, monitoring adherence to things like fire codes and party procedures, and, more often than not, they were forced to shut parties down due to noncompliance. A conversation began last year about how students could work with Public Safety and the administration to maintain a safe party atmosphere while keeping these parties going.  The administration paid attention to this discussion, and this year, a solution has been announced: Party Assistants.

An email slipped through the cracks a while ago, announcing that the “Party Assistant position is posted for hiring”. These party assistants are students who are paid to work with party and event hosts in Social Houses.  They receive training (different than Crown Manager training) that “will allow them to help hosts stay in compliance with fire codes and party procedures, identify potentially risky situations, effectively request help, support event attendees who have questions or require assistance, and most importantly support party host in hosting safe and enjoyable events.” Being a party assistant entails, among other things, providing the food and non-alcoholic drinks that party procedure requires, arriving before the event to speak with the hosts and do an initial walk-through, and staying through the event and its wrap-up and providing feedback.

The presence of these Party Assistants means that Pub Safe will no longer have to walk through mid-event; instead, the party host and the assistant will meet them at the door for a quick consultation.  This will most definitely be a welcome change for party-goers and Pub Safe alike.

While we should definitely continue the discussion about social life restrictions that has been recently set afire by the new tailgate restrictions, it is important to acknowledge when positive steps are taken.  Students expressed dissatisfaction about the status quo and the administration was willing to work with us in finding new solutions.  Let’s prove that this was the right move and make this step successful: Party Assistant positions are posted on the SEO website and hires will take place on a rolling basis.  Anyone willing to spend a couple nights a year benefitting the greater good, get involved.  Party-goers will thank you.

LOVE: The Science of Relationships Tonight, Whenever, or Forever

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A new nickname for our generation has been in the works for years, and it’s finally gaining popularity: Commitaphobes. Many Midd students and Gen Y-ers at large have successful romantic relationships (I think). However, the vast majority of us are in some way or another swept up in a not-so-appealing but often inevitable “hookup culture,” defined by fleeting, non-committal relationships. We’re fine with the sexual connection part, but when it comes to the connection-connection part (i.e. real emotional connection, dependence, “love” etc.), we get a little freaked out (to say the least). Plus, as we’ve always been inundated with modern technology such as text messaging, snap chat, Facebook and the likes, many Gen Y-ers have developed a keen ability to feel as if they’ve established a romantic relationship, though it often exists primarily behind LCD screens. These realities make learning about what really goes on in romantic relationships all the more important, and fascinating.

No matter where you fall in the hookup-relationship culture debate, if you’re interested in relationships, love, sex, and all that fun stuff, you should be sure to check out tonight’s lecture, “LOVE: The Science of Relationships Tonight, Whenever, or Forever,” being given by Emily Nagosk, the director of Wellness Education at Smith College and the author of Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life.

Barbara McCall writes in to explain the lecture:

If you’ve ever wondered how relationships actually work – why they feel the way they feel and how to make them behave the way you want – then this is the talk for you. In one hour, we’ll talk about the science of trust and betrayal, the science of love and lust, and the science of conflict and communication.

Date: Today, Monday, 10/6
Time: 7-9pm
Place: Dana Auditorium