Looking for an Internship? Check out The Muse!

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It’s almost April, which means summer internships start in less than two months, which means, fuuuuuk if you want one and don’t have it on lockdown (yet!)! But hold up before you stress out, because there are PLENTY of summer internships at incredibly cool companies that are still totally available. While MOJO can be kind of a bust given the limited number of creative job and internship postings (what if we don’t want to be an Analyst, Midd?!), we’ve got a new career website you’ve got to check out, if you haven’t already: The Muse

The Muse is a beautifully designed, innovative website providing career advice and job/internship postings catered to a wide array of professional interests and skill sets. I’ve been checking the site all year and am blown away by the extremely cool, creative companies that are featured — companies I never would have heard about through MOJO. And the best part? If you sign up for a Muse personal account (totally free!), you can customize your professional interests and talents so to receive information about the exact type of jobs/internships you’re looking for, without sorting through all the rest!

So, to start your Muse addiction, check out this awesome article submitted by Muse employee Rachel Dicker ’14, “15 Companies Hiring (Interns) Like Crazy“! Awesome companies featured in the article include Venture for America (yes, they have interns, too!), Boost Media, Nitro, Dormify, Hudl, SquareSpace and more. Internships in editorial work, project management, sales, marketing, creative, software development, engineering, global health and more are all available.

It’s never too late to land an unforgettable summer gig. Get on it before they’re gone! www.themuse.com 

50th Anniversary of Selma-Montgomery 2015: “Acting Righteously in Times of Danger”

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Thanks to Gabbie Santos ’17, one of the 16 students who participated in this spring’s Malt trip to Alabama, for the info on this afternoon’s celebration of the 50th anniversary of Selma-Montgomery March.  This should be an amazing event, featuring students on from this break’s trip and Midd alumni who participated in the famous 1965 march.  Ellen McKay writes in:

We hope you’ll join us in Wilson Hall (McCullough) on Tuesday, March 31 at 4:30 PM to engage, reflect and be challenged as we mark the 50thanniversary of the Selma-Montgomery March to further civil rights, especially for the African-American community. This program will feature a dance piece choreographed by Associate Professor of Dance Christal Brown, remarks by Midd alumni who participated in the 1965 march and by participants in this year’s Alternative Spring Break Trip to Montgomery, Alabama. Check out the trip blog here. These will be followed by facilitated, small group conversations. No pre-registration is required. Space is limited and seating priority will be given to Middlebury College students, faculty, and staff. Sponsored by The Scott Center for Spiritual and Religious Life.

When: Today, 4:30
Where: McCullough Social Space (Wilson Hall)
Cost: nope

TONIGHT: College Choir Tour Home Concert

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Stop by to see the Middlebury College Choir perform their program from a concert tour of Washington D.C. and Philadelphia. They’ll be featuring “Songs of Liberation” as well as a repertoire that celebrates the 60th anniversary of Middlebury Hillel. This sounds like something cool and a little different for your Monday night!

Date: Today, March 30th
Time: 7:30 PM
Place: MCA Concert hall
Cost: Free!

Sale at the College Bookstore!

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If you’ve been meaning to pick up some new Midd gear, today’s the day to do it! Head on down (up?) to the college bookstore today for the Crack an Egg for savings sale. Here’s how it works: from today through April 3rd, when you purchase a clothing or giftware item from the bookstore you will be able to crack an egg revealing a discount of anywhere from 15-40% off. May the odds be ever in your favor.

middbeat Crush of the Week: Andrew Pester, ’17

Meet sophomore stunna Andrew Pester, whom middbeat interrupted during a serious chemistry study session in Atwater dining hall because he was just too crushable to pass up. Get to know our new favorite Kansasian!

name: Andrew
grade: sophomore
major: Environmental Studies with a focus in Dance
hometown: Lawrence, Kansas

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middbeat: What’s your favorite thing to do in Lawrence, Kansas?
Andrew Pester: My favorite thing to do in Lawrence, Kansas is go to an abandoned house on a lake with my friends and have a picnic.

mb: Do you have any random talents?
AP: I can do a backflip. And I’m really flexible. My feet can touch my head, going backwards. Like if I brought my feet over my head. Yeah. My back is very flexible.

mb: Wow. What’s your favorite holiday?
AP: My favorite holiday is Fourth of July. Not because I’m patriotic. But because it’s when my family gets together, and we make homemade ice cream. It’s a time when my whole family gets together, and I get to spend a lot of great quality time with my grandparents. And it’s all about food.

mb: What kind of music do you like?
AP: So…my favorite album probably of all time was alt-J’s first album. But when I listen to music I usually pick songs that remind me of people I know, so it can be kind of all over the place, because I know people from, I guess you could say…different music genres. So when I listen to music, I really listen to people who I assign those songs to.

mb: Hmm. If someone were to listen to music that would be reflective of you what would it be?AP: [pause]. Right now it would probably be a mix between Bon Iver and Ra Ra Riot.

mb: Woah, they should totally get together. Interesting current mood you’ve got.
AP: Yeah…I’m pretty stressed. But that’s not really unique. But I’m also hopeful because I’m going to Panama City for spring break and that’s exciting.

mb: What’s up in Panama City?
AP: I’m going to teach kids dance. Through the Middlebury Dance Department, with seven other students and Scotty Hardwig, one of the dance professors.

mb: Right on. So if you could have any animal appendage, what would it be?
AP: Wings. For sure.

mb: What do you look for most in a significant other?
AP: Opportunities for growth, I think.

mb: Personal or mutual?
AP: Personal. Opportunities for me to grow with that person.

mb: What’s your current relationship status?
AP: I’m taken. Yeah.

Live Music! Eight 02 at 51 Main

eighto210112012lores61933Come down to 51 Main to hear the eclectic sounds of Eight 02, a contemporary jazz group with a distinct Vermont flavor.  The Burlington-based band has toured all over the world, including a recent appearance in Russia!  Their mellow tunes should provide the perfect accompaniment to 51 Main burger and beer.

Date: Tonight 3/19
Time: 8-10 pm
Location: 51 Main @ The BridgeCost: Free (food and drink strongly encouraged though!)

Thursday Thought: A Romantic Paradigm That’s Freaking Me Out

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I’ve spent over 90 hours interviewing Midd students about their romantic and sexual experiences this semester, and I’ve come across a paradigm, a theory, a “rule,” you could say about male-female romantexual (romantic/sexual) relations. It’s controversial, and I kind of hate it, but I want to hear what you all think, so why not middbeat thought of the week it?

Guys grow on girls, but girls don’t grow on guys.

Nah, let’s modify — that’s a bit nauseating:

(Frequently), guys (who make an effort, show genuine interest, and are genuinely interested) can grow on girls (even if they weren’t initially physically or emotionally interested in them), but (more often than not) girls (who make an effort, show genuine interest, and are genuinely interested) don’t grow on guys (though it’s certainly (I hope, though I haven’t heard of it) happened that a guy who’s pursued by a girl and doesn’t initially find them attractive grows attraction for said girl, and develops a romantic, not just a sexual, relation with them).

~Sigh~. That’s a mess and I’m not sure it’s any better. Really, what it boils down to is:

Frequently, guys grow on girls, but except in extremely rare circumstances I’ve yet to hear of, girls don’t grow on guys.

To the girls throwin’ middle fingers in the air: I feel you. And, importantly, this isn’t a law, it’s a proposition posed by a 21-year-old white, economically privileged, heterosexual female who hasn’t had nearly enough experience to tell you what’s undoubtedly true or false. That being said, almost everyone I’ve talked to has (whether hesitantly or not) admitted, “Shit, that’s actually really true.”

Anyone who’s done an interview has been slapped over the head with this fact: It’s all about first impressions. Recently, I read an article on interviewing that explained a judgment is made in the first ten seconds, and the entire rest of the interview is basically negligible, as it’s just an effort to confirm the positive or negative impression made in the first ten seconds. While I hadn’t considered the relation between romantic pursuits and job interviews until yesterday (thank you, obsessive senior spring job pursuit), I think they mirror each other all too well.

If in interviews humans so instantaneously (and subjectively) decide whether they’re attracted to a candidate or not, why shouldn’t this instinct hold steadfast in the romantic realm? I think it does, both for guys and for girls; but for girls, it’s a pencil mark that can fade fairly easily, while for guys, it’s Sharpie status. Or so it seems. Consider Circumstance 1, which I’ve heard time and again:

Girl, let’s call her Jen, has a huge distance crush on boy, let’s call him Andrew. Jen and Andrew are both objectively attractive people, but neither is “model-status,” whatever that means. Jen and Andrew sit next to each other in class, joke around, exchange glances, and even chat it up at a party on Saturday night. Jen feels chemistry, she’s a smart, independent woman, so she decides, “Fuck it,” and asks him to grab coffee. It goes great. “We got along so well, we felt so compatible, we chatted for hours and laughed a ton and had so much in common. We had such a good time, and he seemed so into it. Plus, he’s so cute.” Jen and Andrew start hanging out more, grabbing a few meals and kiss once or twice. Jen’s excited: How often do you feel actually compatible with a distance crush?” But then it just stopped. He said he thought I was awesome, smart, funny but it just wasn’t there for him, and that was that. It just made no sense.” Andrew’s side of the story: “I do think she’s an awesome girl, so funny, so friendly, so smart. She told me she was really attracted to me and felt a real connection, and I’m flattered. Honestly. But she pursued me, I wasn’t initially sexually attracted to her, and though we had a great time, it just wasn’t there from the start.” What wasn’t there? The first 10-second sexual attraction. Did it matter? Hell yeah.

And now, Circumstance 2:

Boy, let’s call him Ryan, has a huge distance crush on girl, let’s call her Kate. Ryan and Kate are both objectively attractive people, but neither is “model-status,” whatever that means. Ryan and Kate sit next to each other in class, joke around, exchange glances, and even chat it up at a party on Saturday night. Ryan feels chemistry, he’s a smart, independent man, so he decides, “Fuck it,” and asks Kate to grab coffee. It goes great. “We got along so well, we felt so compatible, we chatted for hours and laughed a ton and had so much in common. We had such a good time, and she seemed so into it. Plus, she’s so cute.” Ryan and Kate start hanging out more, grabbing a few meals and kiss once or twice. Ryan’s excited: How often do you feel actually compatible with a distance crush?” Kate’s on the fence. “I mean I wouldn’t have picked him out of the crowd, he’s not my type. He’s not ugly or anything, instinctually, I’m just not super attracted to him.” Ryan senses a tension, and meets up with Kate. “Look, I think your really beautiful, interesting, and smart, and I just want to get to know you.” Almost no one’s ever said this to Kate. Heart flutters. “And we have such a good time together.” Kate agrees, they do have a good time together. They continue “dating” for a few weeks, and fast forward: “It’s true, I wasn’t super attracted at first. But he was so nice. He really cared about me, and more than anything he was interested in me. He thinks I’m beautiful. I don’t know how it happened, but something changed, and I’m really happy it did. We’re really happy.” What wasn’t there? The first 10-second sexual attraction. Did it matter? Nope.

Of course, Circumstances 1 and 2 are oversimplifications. There’s a million criticisms that could be made (sociologically, gender roles, cultural norms, you name it). But I’d be so bold as to say, none of that matters. It’s just kind of, really true. If you’re a guy, put yourself in Andrew’s shoes, then in Ryan’s. If you’re a girl, put yourself in Jen’s shoes, then in Kate’s. Tell me you can’t relate, you can’t understand, you wouldn’t do the same thing.

Human’s are animals, and biologically, female animals seek protection, care, a male who desires to be with only them while they birth and care for an offspring. Biologically, male animals seek not protection, care, and commitment, but to have sex with as many females as possible, to spread the seed. Humans have evolved, and we’d like to think this dichotomy has blurred quite a bit. In many ways, it has. But when it comes to that instinctual sexual attraction, it seems we’re back to basics: For a girl, if protection, care, and commitment are there, sexual attraction can develop, and it frequently does, because what’s attractive is the romance, the love, not the body in and of itself. For a guy, if protection, care, and commitment are there, and the sexual attraction is not, I’m afraid it’s most likely never going to be. So, given the sex drive, which is perhaps more fervent in men than women, ultimately, the body in and of itself, is the deciding factor.

Hear me out: I don’t like this potential reality, I don’t believe it’s always true, and I don’t want it to be true at all. But if we’re being honest, I think it just might be.

So, what does it mean for us? You tell me. Here’s my two cents: To the ladies: if you’re into him, remember you’re fucking awesome and test the waters. But protect your heart. While initially I was gung-ho on the “bold girl,” I’m realizing it’s not that simple. Bold is good. Confidence is good. But sometimes, if he think’s “it ain’t there,” it’s likely not going to be, so move on up. To the dudes: if you’re into her, remember you’re fucking awesome and test the waters. If you think she’s beautiful, intelligent, smart, tell her. Tell her why, and be honest. Spend time with her, and give her space to think. It’s not a sealed deal, but remember it’s the honesty, the feelings, that’ll seal the deal, not the sex (most likely).

I’m still confused, unsettled, and unsatisfied. Upon first read, my instinct to this reflection would be “That’s bullshit, and jam packed of untrue generalizations.” But when I’m honest with myself, and more importantly, when my interview participants (especially guys) have been honest with themselves, that defense fades and a troubling truthfulness sets in. If romantic/sexual pursuits are an interview, to extend the metaphor, I really hope the questions, beyond the “how are you?” upon walking in the door or initiating the Skype sesh, actually do matter.

Nonetheless, remember, this Thursday Thought is just a thought. It’s not a claim. It’s an open platform, so share what you think.

*This thought focuses exclusively on heterosexual relations solely because I do not feel I have heard about enough homosexual relations to make significantly supported claims.
** Contribute your two cents on romantic/sexual culture by taking this (anonymous) survey GO/ROMANCE

TODAY: Community Conversations-Support Services

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The third round of Community Conversations is this afternoon, and this week it is focused on something at least I feel like I need amidst the flurry of midterm: Support Services.

There will be representatives from the Intercommons Council, International Student and Scholar Services, and other relevant campus officials, available to answer your questions, quell your concerns, and engage in conversation.

Visit go/talk for more info.

Date: Today, Thursday March 19th
Time: 4:30pm
Place: Hillcrest Orchard